Nigerian Love Triangle | Opinion

There is a point in our lives where finding your “better-half” becomes an important aspect in ones life. An instance where you want to find that special person you want to spend the rest of your life with. In a Nigerian household our relatives and friends have asked that infamous question “where is your husband/wife?” Opinions on Love and Religion, by what I have noticed, differs from family and culturally. Through my conversations, I came back with different answers to different scenarios, ALL are from a Nigerian point of view.

Love and Religion

In one talk, a female, christian yoruba friend of mine stated that she would marry a christian to appease her parents and give a back seat to love. Another stated she will marry for love, and religion will take a back seat. I heard the same from an igbo friend who also stated she wanted her parents blessing and would marry who she felt they would like, a fellow igbo who believes in God. A male muslim friend let me know that he would only marry a devout muslim woman, and his reason being was that he wanted his children to receive the same upbringing he did.

With many discussions I have had with friends and family alike, most feel your FAITH should come ahead of LOVE. While some have emphasized that their family’s wish must be done in a marriage; That one must marry inter-culturally and the other person MUST be of the same religious belief just to appease the family. While some have stated that they will marry whoever they are compatible with, regardless of religious beliefs, ethnicity and what their family thinks, for LOVE holds the highest bar. Is this the New Age thought process??

So the question is for YOU, Would you put RELIGION on the backseat to LOVE? Do your PARENTS have a say in your potential matrimony?? Love or Religion??? Leave your comments/Thoughts down here for this is the true NIGERIAN LOVE TRIANGLE….
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Lola

I think all of it goes together love, religion and parents say because marriage is a life time investment. I think religion is the most important part, either christian or muslim so far he/she is strong in their strong in their religion. Because if someone married the same religion and dat person is only a christian/muslim by mouth they might see hardship. Who knows? At the end of the day so far the couple pray together I think they will be fine. As they say “a family dat prays together stays together”. As for love, omo na only God can give u the strength to love someone forever ooooo. Because pple change either good or bad and u can’t run away when u see the bad side. So u need to call on God to give u strength and patience to tolerate ur spouse when he/ she is acting up. Now for the parents say let not lie to our self especially if ur parents are TYPICAL Nigerians. If the guy mama no like u I’m sorry for u ooooo. Cuz she go complain about everything u do (Don’t yall watch 9ja movies). Women really don’t have that problem so far he’s from a good family and have a bright future they are ready to accept for most woman, after all she’s the girl and time isn’t on their side, the earlier the betta………
Tyme

Yes that’s all you can do let your faith lead you
yung D

Mehn marriage and religion, so hard, esp if u meet a woman who you’re feeling, BUT she’s a different Faith….I’d take my Faith to lead me to the right woman. Isn’t that how it’s supposed to be???
Tyme

Marriage essentially is about two people comming together as one, not two people and thier whole family so I don’t see why someone ll choose a partner just to please thier family. We need to realize at the end of the day when trouble starts your family won’t be the one trying to put together the pieces of your home that is broken, some families will even turn thier bck on you.
Also I am not one to choose between religious compatibility and love, to me they go hand in hand. You need to have the same religious beliefs and love each other cos if u let go of one of this you surely will have a very hard run in your marriage.