At some point in our lives, some of us will find out that our partners have been unfaithful and have cheated on us. Sometimes, we try to suck it up and still stay in the relationship because we are so in love and we have invested too much time in it to just let it go.  But anytime we think about the cheating, we feel sick on the inside.

I’ve heard several stories and read some articles about females who have been cheated on, and out of anger some of them will sneak into the guy’s house and burn all his belongings, slash his car tire, or pour soda in his gas tank. Last night, I saw a picture of a guy whose girlfriend poured hot water on his private part and now he is scarred for life. Some women even go to the extent of chopping off the man’s penis.

There are so many things a female can do to get beyond the hurt without being violent. Chopping off your husband or your boyfriend’s penis will not make you feel better. The only thing you achieved at that point is you just depriving him of ever having any form of sexual behavior but that doesn’t change what he has done to you, you are still hurting. It’s ok to be angry but there are some things you shouldn’t do when you find out that your partner is cheating on you:

1. Do not get into the blaming game: Your partner is responsible for his actions, not you.
2. Do not get violent: Chopping your partner’s private part off is not going to solve anything except ruin the man’s life. That might even scare other men away from you even if they have no intentions of cheating on you. Violence will only make things worse.
3. Do not accept it: People often make it seem like it’s ok for a man to cheat so they just take it all in and act like everything is fine. I believe people like that have low self-esteem. Also, don’t let him take over your feelings with promises and sweet words of not doing it again.
4. Don’t ignore or pretend it’s not happening: Things will only get worse when you’re in denial.
5. Do not waste your time on the other woman: Focus on what happened between you and the man. Harassing the other woman only leads to humiliation. Do not obsess over her because she is not worth your time and energy.

If you want to get past the hurt

1. It’s ok to cry: Watch a sad movie, listen to blues music and just let it out but don’t over-do it. Don’t mope everyday because you will end up hurting yourself more.
2. It takes time to get past the pain: If you decide to stay in the relationship, don’t expect the pain to just go away because you have decided to forgive him.
3. Think twice before telling your friends or your family: Chances are your friends will hold grudges longer than you do.
4. Take care of yourself: Ladies, do not give up your food because your partner cheated on you. Eat healthy, laugh, shop, and spend time with people who make you laugh. Through all the heart ache and unfaithfulness, life goes on.
5. Get tested. (nuff said )
6. Personally, I don’t see the reason why I should stay with a cheater. If a partner cheats on me, he has already left. So, if you decide to leave the guy, give yourself time to get over the pain, forgive him because that’s the only way you can heal and move on. Don’t feel like you will never get part it because you will, it just takes time.

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