Chaz Bono, 42, is saving up for a penis.

Born Chastity, the son of ’60s pop icons Sonny and Cher, Chaz says he knew from an early age that he was born in the wrong body. He went public in 2009, he now grows body hair and  has surgically removed his breasts.

Now, the “Dancing With the Stars” contestant told Rolling Stone magazine that he plans on buying himself a penis. “I could get a phalloplasty, which builds the phallus from a donor site on your body,” Bono, who changed his name from Chastity to Chaz, told Rolling Stone in a recent interview.

How big will the new penis be?

“You know, I don’t really [know]. I mean, I’ve never seen one erect. So it’s really hard to say. But, you know, soft, probably about three inches, and it grows considerably. I don’t know what the average size difference is, but when I’m having sex I probably get three or four times larger.”

Regarding the cost of the surgery, which he compares to buying a car, and says will be in the range of $25,000 – $50,000.

Now my question is: How do they determine the price, based on the size? O_O

via ABC

Heide Klum and Seal

Size doesn’t seem to matter anymore, at least as far as Heidi Klum is concerned. On Sunday the couple confirmed the news: After seven years together, they are calling it quits.

“We have had the deepest respect for one another throughout our relationship and continue to love each other very much, but we have grown apart,” the two told People exclusively in announcing their split.

If you are lost on my reference to “size” above, some years back Heidi said on Oprah’s show that Seal had a “Big Package”… See videos

Why are they splliting? sources told TMZ that any “third-party” involved in the split may have been Seal’s hot temper.

They have four kids, three of them together: Leni, 7, Henry, 6, Johan, 5, and newest daughter Lou, 2. Seal in 2009 adopted Leni, Heidi’s daughter from a previous relationship.

See what the Young Turks had to say about Heidi’s remarks…

via LA Times

This is an ongoing battle between Nigerian parents with kids abroad. Love is universal and shouldn’t be boxed down to “culture” however most Nigerian parents think differently on this issue.

We are ALL "ONE" but don't tell that to a NIGERIAN PARENT SHA!

Even when a Nigerian finally finds another Nigerian to marry then the issue of “TRIBALISM” raises its head. I just think people should be allowed to marry whomever they please.

Below is a video of some Nigerian parents sharing their thoughts on the subject matter. What’s your take?

lets talk about it!

MissBee and I decided to tackle this issue that is very common in our society today. We’ve both decided to write from different angles, she is for it and I’m against it.

YEA:

There is this notion flying around that us women are the weaker sex, enslaved and limited by our emotions. Whoever still believes that probably spent their growing years living in a cave and only just made their first contact with civilisation. I’m not about to embark on a feminist raving mission but it has to be said that a woman is perfectly capable of  taking a leading role in a relationship or as dictated by this topic, the lack of it. 

Friends with Benefit, encouraged or recipe for disaster? I say go for it. It’s not always a woman wants a figure there to ‘answer to’ for lack of a better phrase. Sometimes, we just want to get our freak on without clauses and conditions. There’s no blame or shame in that, and there shouldn’t be. Society…well our society, now in the 21st century still maintains that a woman’s sex life is a huge determinant of her pride. It can’t understand why a woman would want to explore her sexuality without reins, rules and archaic expectations. I fail to understand this backward mentality.

Now let’s talk about emotions. It is general belief that a woman will start falling for the man after one or two ‘meetings’. Feelings settle in and sentiments make an unwelcome appearance. But it is not necessary that a woman gets attached to her sex partner, well, not always. The key to this, as a woman, is initiating the ‘relationship’. Your time, your terms. You have no business with his feelings in this instance, he’s entitled to his emotions. This is strictly business, hence, should be viewed as such. Sadly, most men believe that if they slept with a girl without the eventuality or promise of a relationship, they got the better end of the deal because we women believe they‘d eventually fall in love *Sigh* We resent the presumption that we are thick. Love’s got no case here. You just make your dick available, and it’d be all gravy!

NAY:

I believe at some point in our lives, some of us have sworn not to engage in this kind of relationship. Yes, it is a relationship – A one-sided relationship. But we end up eating our words back. I’ll just go straight to the point and say it’s a very bad idea. Bad! Wrong! A No-No! The way I see it is, it’s not the sex that makes it bad, it’s the lack of investment of attention from him. As a female, you get more emotionally attached to the guy you’re having sex with but most of the time, the equal emotional involvement that you want from the guy is lacking. You don’t want him to be affectionate with other girls because you already feel attached to him, so you want that same attention, so everything gets confusing at that point.

Last week, the Miss Nigeria 2011 contestants were revealed here. The Grand Finale was held on Friday November 18, 2011 at the Expo Centre, Eko Hotel & Suites, Victoria Island Lagos. 21 year old  Feyijinmi Sodipo,  representing Ogun State was crowned Miss Nigeria 2011 .

Feyijinmi Sodipo - MISS NIGERIA 2011

She walked  away with full Scholarship to be educated in an Institution of Higher Learning, anywhere in the world . Luxury Car ,One year salary package of N3million naira. VLISCO designer Wardrobe for 1 year from Vlisco 2012 Collection.
Fayejimi sodipo will  also enjoy an all expense paid trip to the Six Yards exhibition in Arnhem, Netherlands courtesy of Vlisco.

Miss Edo was awarded 2nd runner up, then Miss Benue, 1st runner up. Miss Delta was decorated Miss Congeniality, while Miss Anambra was awarded Miss photogenic. Miss African Hostess was given to Miss Akwa Ibom and the best traditional wear was won by Miss Benue.

We also found out that the grand winner, Feyijinmi Sodipo  immediately split up with her long-term boyfriend right after winning the Miss Nigeria crown.

If you’ve ever wondered what goes on in the brain (at least the female brain) during what’s believed to the funnest part of sex – orgasm. Then the video below should take care of your curiosity.

 The scans show the build up, the big event, and the “recovery” after several areas of the brain light up in a “crescendo” of oxygen-rapacious activity, reports the Guardian. The video shows what happens to the brain of a 54-year-old PhD student and sex therapist masturbating in an MRI machine. “It’s my dissertation,” the student said. “I’m committed to it.” The aim of the research is to “understand how the orgasm builds up from genital stimulation and what parts of the brain become recruited, and finally build up into an orgasm,” said Rutgers Professor Barry Komisaruk, who presented the work at a scientific conference in Washington.

 

The five-minute video shows how activity changes across 80 separate regions of the brain in snapshots taken every two seconds. Oxygen utilization shows up dark red (lowest activity) to yellow (highest). The orgasm leads to almost the entire brain turning yellow. Only an epileptic seizure is believed to engage more areas of the brain, reports Scientific American.

via Newser

All the time I hear people complaining about how hard it is to find the right on; the right man, the right woman, we are all stuck in this illusion where there is one person out there that has everything you could possibly think of in a partner, lover and spouse. Well it’s about time we came back to earth people. There is no such thing as the perfect man or woman. Like the saying goes, “Perfect girls are not real, and real girls are not perfect”

I think it’s needless to say that this is also true of men (or boys). Yes! We all have our short-comings. I mean, if you as an individual can identify some faults you have in yourself, why would you be expecting someone else to be a picture perfect package?! We are all individuals with our own unique behavioral and thought patterns. We are all uniquely different and for us to live together, let alone share a life together, people, something has gotta give, and it’s from both people involved. We must learn to understand the other person is not perfect, just as we aren’t.

On that note, let me give you my take on the primary things you need to make your relationship actually work because believe it or not, love is not always enough. Love is just the seed that needs to be watered and cared for to blossom into something extra-ordinary.

1. Honesty
Honesty is the foundation of any successful relationship. Sometimes it could be tough to be honest, but it is definitely necessary. As the famous saying goes, love is nothing without truth. Trust me; I know it is hard, especially when you know the truth might hurt your partner or get them upset or get you in trouble, but in the end, there is more dignity in sincerity. When there is no honesty, there is no trust. Without trust, you have already created a bridge in your relationship.

2. Respect
We all feel hurt when being disrespected, especially by lovers. This is only natural because the people closest to you have the ability to hurt you the most. A relationship goes nowhere in absence of mutual respect. Both people involved must respect each other’s opinions, reservations, and feelings.

3. Communication
In every relationship these 2 things are key and essential: Speak openly, listen truly. Differences lead to conflicts, solve them as soon as they arise, avoiding them will only make things worse. If there is a conflict or misunderstanding, it is better to sort it right away than to keep silent about it. Only when you address an issue can it be solved. Be open to one another. Besides, who else would you feel open with if not that one person you love?

4. Understanding
No one is perfect, accept your lovers as they are, stop expecting how they should be, or expecting them to be something they are not. You must try to accommodate them with all the little parts of them that aren’t you. Everyone has ups and downs, understand and help your lover to go through their bad times. Be supportive of their ambitions and aspirations. Be there to nurture and help them grow.

5. Patience
You must be patient with each other’s shortcomings. You must learn to tolerate each other’s excesses and find a way to balance each other out. Without patience, you can lose a good thing over something very trivial that could easily have been worked on. While talking out a problem, also give each other time to work on it, giving loving support all the way.

Love is like a plant that needs to be nurtured for it to blossom beautifully. You need to water it with all these things for your relationship to grow and mature into something wonderful and fulfilling.

When it comes to sex talk, I know this is a very sensitive topic, especially for guys. As a man, you want to be the “Optimus Prime” when it comes to pleasing your partner and when you can’t do that, there is a big problem. Don’t get me wrong, women shouldn’t just expect the men to do all the work while they just lay there and enjoy it – Put in some work too. Work with him!

I believe most people have had a couple of bad experiences in bed. There are some cases where the chic just lays there, no sound, no movement and you have to keep checking to see if she still has a pulse. And other cases, the guy tries to give you oral sex and he starts chewing on your pussy like it’s raw meat, or maybe he just watched a porno movie and he tries to practice what he say in the movie on you but his performance was nothing to write home about, his idea of foreplay is either leaving u bleeding or leaving u sore…and that’s just to name a few… No guy likes to hear from his partner that he is not pleasing her in bed and sometimes I wonder if there’s a nice way to tell him without bruising his ego. How do you tell your partner that your pussy is delicate and he shouldn’t eat it like the ponmo he got from Iya Basirat’s restaurant, and you don’t want to hurt his feelings?

Most of us go about it the wrong way and hey I don’t blame you. You might have been horny for the longest time..maybe you even humped your pillow till it’s as flat as a pancake, then you finally get to have sex and he sucked at it, you are angry and unsatisfied, so you called him like “Hey, we need to talk, YOU SUCK!” –   this is a very wrong approach.

It’s easy if you are very comfortable with your partner and you guys can talk about everything. Some people are embarrassed to talk to each other about sex and they are sleeping together. I don’t get it! Maybe you guys are still laying there right after the act, and he asks you how he did, you can just say “You were amazing. If you had done this or that, oh my God I would’ve gone wild!” As a woman, you should know the right “buttons” on your body. You know what a guy can do to make you have an orgasm, you know the part of your body that you want him to touch, kiss, bite or whatever it is that you’re into – Men are not mind readers. So tell him! Hold his hand and guide him. Men love when you tell them what you want them to do to you in bed so do that! Talking dirty comes in handy here too. Tell him what you want abeg.  If that doesn’t work, instead of telling him what you want, SHOW him what you want. When he starts touching you, grab his hand and show him what to do with it. Tell him you want him to kiss you ‘here’ and ‘here.

The truth about this matter is – there are some times where you just have to forget about his feelings. If you have tried being nice, leading him, telling him what you want and he is just hopeless, what do you do? And let’s be real here – Bad sex IS a deal breaker in relationships.  Nobody wants bad sex, try not to make it too serious of a conversation or to bring it up in front of other people. Be frank. Talk to your partner about it as if it’s not that big of a deal (even though it is) but make sure the point gets across. Hopefully your partner doesn’t get offended. And if he/she still sucks – ehmm End it! Or Fast & Pray!

Despite the fact that my breath smelt like skonk, she still managed to plant a light kiss on my lips.

“Good morning sunshine” she said with a smile on her face

“Its morning already?”  I asked, as I stretched my arms to stay awake

“It is boo; last night was great. I’m sure that’s why you still think its night time. Coffee or Tea?”

“I think some water would suffice; I need to do some detox after all that stuff we downed last night”

As she left for the kitchen to grab me some water, I could not help but think about what I got myself into. This will be the tenth time I would share the same bed with Rachael after our fateful meeting six weeks ago. The first night we met (the night she blatantly told me she wanted to be FUCK BUDDIES), we head back to my place and did what people who are in “Lust” do, we had SEX. And since then, the routine had not changed. We called each other whenever we were free and then we end up getting into each other’s pants.

But despite, our carefree attitude, I could not help but think this was turning into something of a relationship. Come to think of it, although I had other interests, she did not seem to have one (at least from the little I know). We were spending more time together and getting to talk a lot. It was becoming more predictable by the minute and I wasn’t too sure where this was going to end. From the little I know of Rachael, at least from the stories I heard of her when we were both students at University, she was the clinging type, one who would want to keep her man by all means possible. Now she seemed completely opposite to what I heard, preferring to be with me just for the sex.

Sex buddies? Friends with benefits? What are the rules? Because I sure do not know how it goes with this fuck buddy thing. Yeah, I might come across as the complete chauvinist that gets my way with women but I am definitely far off from the impression people have of me.But who am I to try and clarify the rules of “fuck buddying”? I am just a guy who happens to be at the right place at the right time, right? I got served a tasty meat on a platter of gold and was sure going to eat till I am full.

There you go Racheal voice snapped me out of my thought. Placing the cold water in hands

As I downed the water, I noticed Rachael looking at me as if she was thinking about something.

Why are you looking at me strangely? I queried

Nothing she said giggling mischievously

“Lair” I said as I tickled her underarms playfully

The tickle was enough invitation to start foreplay. As I reached for the back of her head with my hands, we ended up in a passionate kiss that caused both of us to crash land on the bed. Although we defined our relationship as just two people involved in casual sex, the sexual chemistry between me and Rachael was great. She didn’t have to do much to turn me on. As her body pressed hard against mine, I felt her nipples going hard, that in itself was a clear indication of what was to come next.

Ours was raw, passionate and some time rough sex. I was a stallion, she was a gazelle. We just clicked like that. As the game progressed, we ended up in a stimulating position. I yanked off the night gown she was wearing and placed her on her knees.

“I want you in me” she said as my fingers went deep into her wet parts.

Her demand was such a turn on and by now my manhood was as solid as a rock. I wrestled her hip  towards me and with a swift movement I entered from behind. The rhythmic movements went on for as long as I could remember and at this point I couldn’t be bothered to switch, I was too engrossed in what I was doing. As the sex progressed, the movements became rougher. This was definitely not love; it was lust at its best.

IT ENDS IN TEARS: One should not start what one can't finish. I learnt that for women, Kissing is a bigger investment than walking arm in arm. Sex is a bigger investment than kissing.

“Harder, Baby, Harder!”  She screamed as my hot flesh pound against hers huge buttocks. That was the last straw, twenty five minutes of hard core sex ends in me achieving one of the most excruciating orgasm I have ever had. Seriously, there are orgasms and there are orgasms, this one made me hold Rachael so tight I did not want to let go. We crashed on the bed, panting like two sportsmen, who had just finished a heavy workout session. With my manhood still in her, she rubbed her buttocks against my navel and held my hands in a tight grip.

“That was good” I said still struggling to catch my breath

“Yeah, I haven’t felt like this in a long while. You touched something right there ace.”

“Really? I felt the same way too”

“I have been thinking, we look good together, where do we go from here”

“Go from where”

“You know we have been seeing each other for six weeks now and we end up spending so much time together. I think it’s about time you tell me what you want, don’t you think?”

At this point, I sure did not know what to say. Was I hearing Rachael correctly? She sure was not talking about defining the relationship, was she?

What are you talking about? I thought you understood what we were doing here

That was enough for Rachael. In an instant her mood changed. She picked herself up and head straight to the bathroom and locked the door. I heard for the shower go off, I knew she was taking this very seriously. I could smell it in the air.

Rachael open the door please

“No, Ace, this is the last time you will see me naked I promise you”

“I just want to talk to you. Look I didn’t mean it like that”

“No, you did. I could see it in your eyes. You meant everything you said.”

Twenty minutes later, Rachael got out the shower, dressed up and left. I tried to persuade her to stay but she would not. She was really upset and she gave me a piece of her mind. According to her, fuck buddies don’t do what we did. She explained that we spent a lot of time together and went on dinner a couple of times. She further went on to say that fuck buddies don’t get as close as we did and that I should have noticed that her feelings towards me have changed.

My excuse was that I was being nice. I didn’t know how to treat a woman like a trash can. Am I expected to apologise for taking you out and making her feel special? In her world, Yes.

“You don’t take the effort to make a woman feel special if all you wanted out of a relationship was casual sex” she said

I tried calling Rachael to explain my side of the story but she was not having any of it. She felt like I lead her on and she was not ready to forgive me.

I learnt a vital lesson from this experience. To women, Physical investments are a big deal. Unless, she is a prostitute soliciting for sex in exchange for money, sleeping with someone just for the sake of it might seem fun for a while but after some time feelings then to grow. If feelings do not grow, some sort of emotional baggage is carried into the relationship. Even for men, this can sometimes be the case.

Rachael taught me that for women, a lot of things are about investments. Kissing is a bigger investment than walking arm in arm. Sex is a bigger investment than kissing. The more time you spend together, the more invested she becomes. It takes an average of four to ten hours to develop enough familiarity for sex, but it takes months or even years to undo that familiarity.

So in Rachael, I have someone who did not want to see me again. I am not sure I deserved to be crucified the way I was. After all, she was the one that suggested that we just be SEX BUDDIES.

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The air was clean and vibrant, a perfect setting for two people wanting to get involved.  The pent house venue we were located was packed, filled with revellers who come to unwind. Lovers in arms of each other, single guys on the prowl, ladies enjoying the company of their girlfriends, the setting had different kinds of people.

By now, I had found myself in an adventure that was not expected when I woke up that day. I would not deny that I was not enjoying the thrill though, I was. Rachael had succeeded in convincing me to hang out, despite the fact that I was very tired and in need of some rest. But you know what they say about women:  A woman has a way of bringing out the best in you.

SAY WHAT YOU SAY, BUT I AM BEING SEDUCED HERE AND I AM NOT APOLOGETIC FOR BEING A PERVERT

“Any drink for the gentle man” she queried

“Are you planning to get me drunk?” I asked jokingly

Pulling my tie and rubbing her breasts against me she said: “What do you think, Tiger?”

I smiled and gave her a faint nod

By now it was obvious that some tension was building up. How it would end, I did not know but I sure was enjoying the chase. As she left to get the drinks at the bar, I could not help but notice how heavy her behind was. As I gazed more at her hips, I smirked my lips at the thought of touching them. Tonight I was feeling like a pervert and I was not in any mood to be apologetic.

A couple of minutes later, Rachael came back with a couple drinks and handed over a double scotch which she ordered for me. We chat about old times, about our past relationships and where things were going with our lives. As the conversation developed, it was obvious that we were both single and had not been seeing anyone for a while.  With the music becoming louder and the place getting crowded as the minutes went by, Rachael did what any woman would do, she claimed ownership of the possession before her. You wouldn’t blame her, loads of single women were at the location and the number of ladies outnumbered the men.

As she moved close to me, the flirting became obvious. And as the flirting became advanced so was the level of the conversation.

“When was the last time you had sex”

“Does touching myself count?” I asked  jokingly

“No silly” she giggled as she smacked me playfully

“Some days ago. It wasn’t anyone special. I guess it was just comfortable for both of us”

“Really? That what I want to do with you too. I just wanna fuck you”

By now I was not sure whether I was hearing Rachael correctly. Not that I was shocked that Rachael would make such a statement, I just haven’t met a woman that upfront and confident to say that they will want to have me just for sex. Even if they did they wouldn’t blurt it out like she did.

Like sex buddies? I asked

“No like Fuck Buddies”  she replied and went for a kiss.

TO BE CONTINUED…….. For more updates on Ace Adasi follow him on twitter @aceadasi

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Back in the day it used to be frowned upon but these days it’s not uncommon in society to see a woman dating someone who is younger than her. The other day, we put out a question through amebor to the ladies on twitter by asking: Will you date a man younger than you? And we were surprised by the number of YES we got.

As our society becomes open, people are beginning to see that dating a younger man goes beyond the stereotypical sugar mama preying on a boy toy. As a Woman ages gracefully, she might have more choice and dating a younger man can be more attractive than dating men of the same age, especially if those older men have baggages (divorce, ex-wife, etc.). While dating a younger man offers an exciting ride there are few things an older woman must discover before she indulges. Here are some tips below.

GET YOUR GROOVE BACK: If done properly, dating a young man has its benefits

GO FOR THE MATURE ONES
We are sometimes engrossed in the notion that age determines maturity but sometimes depending on their life experiences, some younger guys have had to grow up faster and have gained some wisdom and insight. If you spend enough time with him to see how he handles things in general, it will give you a better idea of how matured he is. Saying this, if you are looking for a casual relationship, it may not really matter.

BE PREPARED TO BE SPONTANEOUS
Full of energy and life, younger men still want to explore and find out who they are before settling down. In the process of doing so, they develop a high sense of adventure. For older women, this can prove to be very nostalgic and pleasing.  A younger man’s curious nature is contagious and exploring life together offers excitement especially in the new season of an older woman’s life.

FIGURE OUT YOUR EXPECTATIONS
Before you start dating, determine what you want out of the relationship. By doing so you will be able to handle any disappointments. Will you be seeing him a lot or seldom? Limited quality time vs. quantity time may suit the busy cougar schedule better.  Does he want children? Is he into the idea of marriage? These discussions don’t have to take place on the first date; having such discussions might make you look needy. Wait till your relationship develops to discuss such issues. Communication is the life blood of any relationship.

COUGAR TYPE: A two time divorcee, Nollywood actress, Shan George is now dating a younger man

RE-UP YOUR ENERGY LEVEL
A young man’s energy level is high, that is a well known fact. Young guys do a lot of social things. If you can’t do what he does, give him alternatives that show him that you have a relaxed fun side as well. It’s always good to remember that you don’t have to do things to compete with younger women. Just be yourself and let him enjoy all the things he likes about you.

REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT HIS MUM
You have raised your own kids and you don’t want to raise another one. Don’t fall into the trap of turning a lover into a son.

DON’T BE A COUGAR TROPHY
Is he dating you for the fun of it or doing it because he loves you?  For some young guys, going out with an older woman is a fantasy and also something they can boast about to their peers. He may also have the stereotypical idea of the older woman being able to teach him a thing or two in bed.  Unless you don’t mind having a casual relationship with no strings attached to it, it’s best to avoid them.

A MAN'S DESIRE: I won't lie, I have a thing for Vivica never mind that her last name is Fox!

LET HIM DO THE CHASING YOU
Always remember, despite you being older than him, you are still a woman. Yes, give him clues that you are into him if he shows interest but let him take the lead. Let him ask for your number. Let him ask you out. Let him do all the things it takes to woo a woman.

A younger man allows an older woman the opportunity to experience an exciting dating life that she may not have  experienced before. By not having the baggage of ex’s and a divorce, it is more attractive and refreshing than dating men of the same age. Once expectations are determined and the “Omo Mummy’s” and “Booty Chasers” are eliminated, the young man of your dreams may show up for some casual fun or a serious relationship.

Happy Cubbing!

I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and he said he was fine with his partner being a Muslim.  He also did not fail to mention a part of the Yoruba culture which states that, “When a man marries a woman, she takes up his beliefs and tradition.”

I still don’t know how I feel about that statement, but in most cases there are scenarios like this: “I have been dating this guy for 4 years and these years with him have been nothing but amazing.  He is a Christian & I’m a Muslim.  Even though we love each other, I’ve been thinking about the differences in our religions lately & I can’t stop wondering if it’ll affect our relationship later in the future. Do differences in religions really matter in a relationship? Should I be worried?”

I asked a couple of my friends about what they thought of this issue & these are some of the responses I got from them:

Response 1

“I can’t be with someone who doesn’t believe in what I believe in and vice versa. Can two walk together unless they are in agreement? Love is not the beginning and end of relationships. 
There are men who abuse their spouses inspite of the great love they have for them.  Being able to walk together in agreement is what matters. You can’t love someone you don’t agree with.  Na fantasy be dat.”

Response 2

“Yes, I just can’t deal with someone who doesn’t believe in God… I’m not the holiest person…
But it is very important for my bf/husband to be religious. We gotta think of our kids and stuff like that,
and going to church on Sundays is VERY important to me. Not that it makes me holier or anything, but I just think it’s part of being disciplined. If I marry a Muslim, we have to bring our kids up in a Christian way. I don’t mind doing it all by myself, and I won’t become a Muslim for anyone.  He doesn’t have to be a Christian for me either, but if we get married our kids MUST go to church.”

“If two people really love each other then no, religion doesn’t matter in the least. Unfortunately, some people can’t look beyond labels.”

Now on relationships & religion differences – as much as I wish that this wasn’t as big of an issue as it is.  I think it’s easier to be in a relationship where both parties have different religions only IF these people place less significance on their spirituality than their diversity.  But I feel like one’s religion should be a part-and-parcel of who and what the person is, so I do not see how you won’t have problems with your spouse later on if you don’t share that element.

If you leave everything up to God, doesn't that dissolve his gift of free will?

I used to be fine with dating someone that’s not a Christian as long as he is not too religious, but even if I am more into my religion than he is into his, wouldn’t there be a void in the level of closeness of the relationship if we don’t connect on a spiritual level? A friend of mine said the only three things that matter in relationship are Love, Respect and Trust.  I do agree  with my friend, but I believe a relationship needs more than just that. When it comes to differences in religion, you have to be able to talk about your differences & also accept the fact that the other person feels differently about it.  You can love each other, trust and respect each other, but dealing with the differences in your religion is way more than those three factors. So I guess LOVE doesn’t conquer all?

If I do end up with a Muslim and we can both respect and tolerate each other’s differences, that would be really amazing BUT can we live the rest of our lives being religiously different? Can we engage in our spiritual activities without each other? Do religion differences matter in relationships? What Are Your Thoughts???